Sisters are doing it for themselves these days and they don’t have time to baby sit grown men who are not willing to get up and work.
These are sentiment shared by Nigerian Nollywood actress, Nancy Isime. She was brave enough to say what many women keep inside out of fear of being labelled ‘gold-diggers’.
The actress raised a few eyebrows when she shared her views on dating in the modern age.
“Let me put it this way, I would date an ambitious guy and ambitious guys are never really broke, they are never jobless. They are guys who are so industrious, guys who would go out there to do everything they can to make money for themselves. I say this because I want the best for anybody that I am in a relationship with, be it a friend, my family member or a boyfriend,” she told Thenationonlineng.net.
“In the case of a boyfriend, I believe any man who is broke and jobless really has no business being in a relationship. I say this because it actually takes away from your focus as a man. As a struggling man, you should sit down and focus on your goals, unless you want to be poor forever. If you know you want to be rich, there is a stage you have to pass through. If you can pass through the stage of working hard, putting yourself out there to make sure you are comfortable, at least you can now go out there and find a relationship,” she said.
Her words make sense, although the same can be said about women. Not every man wants to marry a housewife.
This is not the 50s anymore, the cost of living is very high and both partners need to have income generating ventures in order to maintain a household.
Like Ian Lang of AskMen.com puts it: “life, as they say, is a two-way street”.
“She wants a man who went to a prestigious school? That’s fine, but she shouldn’t be surprised if the men she’s after expect the same thing. She wants a guy who makes a lot of money? Sure, and maybe she doesn’t need to make as much money as you, but maybe you expect her to at least have some clear goals,” he wrote in his column titled: Guys, you seriously need to stop dating losers.
What are your thoughts on this matter?